We talk about “boundaries” a lot these days - especially in therapy circles. But despite how common the word has become, many people I work with still feel unsure about what boundaries actually are, let alone how to recognise or set them in their own lives.

If you’ve ever caught yourself thinking “I’m not good enough” or “I don’t trust myself to make the right decision,”you’re not alone.

These thoughts don’t appear out of thin air. For many people who grew up with emotionally immature parents, self-worth was something they had to earn - through achievement, people-pleasing, or staying quiet. Over time, you learn to doubt your instincts, ignore your needs, and look to others for validation.